Monthly Archives: January 2008


It’s 1:30 AM and I just finished my sister’s memorial video. What a draining and exhausting thing to do, but I really hope it helps people with their grief process. Today was an angry day. John had me go to Woodhouse, my favorite spa for a massage. I wish I could say it had some…


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  • CassieJanuary 30, 2008 - 1:33 am

    those are some rockin’ shorts she is sporting in that first photo 🙂

    good for you for getting a massage, bets. now go to bed! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

  • Anne WoehnkerJanuary 30, 2008 - 6:47 am

    Hey Betsy – Thanks for sharing those pictures of Penny and your family with us:) I just wamted share with you that that dress outfit of Penny’s that you said you LOVED and wish you had it . . . well, I actually had a dress very similar to that one when I was about her age AND I believe I had the exact same shoes, too. I actually wore the dress and shoes together at Lindsay’s Mom and Dad’s wedding about 30 years ago. Darn, if I still had it I would bring it right over to you. Thinking of you and your family today.

  • erinJanuary 30, 2008 - 9:36 am

    Thanks for sharing the pictures, Betsy- they are beautiful. All my love to you and your family right now. xo

  • JessicaJanuary 30, 2008 - 11:06 am

    Those pictures are so wonderful. I know there are no words that could possibly take away your pain right now. But you have been in our thoughts and prayers each and every day. I pray for you to have the strength to get through this difficult time. Thank goodness for memories! All the best – Jessica, Todd and Olivia

  • Steve & MelissaJanuary 30, 2008 - 2:10 pm

    We love you guys and I’m so sorry we can’t be there with you today. Thank you for sharing the beautiful pictures. You will all be in our thoughts and prayers today and tomorrow. Lots of love–

  • LindsayJanuary 31, 2008 - 6:48 pm

    I just heard the news… I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. We love you. – Lindsay, Chuck and the kids


People keep telling me that I’m amazing because of everything I’ve gone through. Well, if people would stop dying, I would totally be ok with being less amazing. I’m kind of serious here. I lost Mark Klinepeter last week, on Sunday a friend called to tell me her mother died and in the same phone…


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  • holliJanuary 29, 2008 - 6:49 pm

    Hey honey! Just thinking about you constantly. I’m glad you could check out for at least a couple hours last night. Sending you lots of (((((HUGS)))))!

  • LindsayJanuary 29, 2008 - 6:54 pm

    Still thinking of you Bets!!! Like you always tell me, “I am sending you love and peace tonight.” =)

  • mike krisherJanuary 29, 2008 - 10:21 pm

    “People keep telling me that I’m amazing because of everything I’ve gone through. Well, if people would stop dying, I would totally be ok with being less amazing.”

    that is the best paragraph on your blog so far! so awesome! keep blogging!

my sister

I really wasn’t sure if I should blog tonight, but blogging is what I do and I need to try to keep some sense of normalcy right now. Today I lost my sister Penny and I type this I still can’t believe it. My mind is swimming with memories of her with her kids, us…


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  • KristinJanuary 27, 2008 - 10:41 pm


    You and your family are in my prayers. Please let me know if Patrick and I can doing anything, anything at all.

  • Anne WoehnkerJanuary 27, 2008 - 10:42 pm

    Betsy, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I don’t know what to say, there are no words.

  • CristiJanuary 27, 2008 - 10:55 pm

    Betsy, You are all in our prayers. Please let me know if I can help with Miles – you know I would love to. I am sooo sorry. Love,Cristi

  • JessicaJanuary 27, 2008 - 11:06 pm

    Betsy- I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. My heart is aching for you and your family. You will be in our thoughts and prayers. Again, I am so, so sorry.

  • bobbi+January 27, 2008 - 11:58 pm

    Such a beautiful person.

    I don’t even know what to say.

    Please don’t hesitate to ask us for anything… we’ll be there in a heartbeat.

    Love, bobbi

  • LindsayJanuary 28, 2008 - 7:07 am

    Betsy, I am speechless….I dont even know what to say….Please let me know if you need anything, and I meanANYTHING!!! A meal cooked, a house cleaned, a babysitter, or a good laugh. I am serious. I am here for you. I will br praying for you guys…. Love you, Lindsay

  • eyegirlJanuary 28, 2008 - 8:15 am


    I am so very sorry!! You and John are in my thoughts. If there is anything at all I can do, just let me know.


  • Leslie WebberJanuary 28, 2008 - 8:37 am

    Betsy, While I only know you through your beautiful work, my heart aches for you and your family. It seems you’ve endured so much loss in a short time span, and I am so sorry for all your hurt. My family will pray for yours.

  • ErinJanuary 28, 2008 - 10:28 am

    Betsy- I’m so heartbroken for you and your family. Sending love and peace to all of you. We’re here when you are ready for whatever you need. Love you, Erin and Kevin

  • Melissa HIllmanJanuary 28, 2008 - 10:31 am


    I am thinking of you and your family. You all will be in my prayers.

  • HeatherJanuary 28, 2008 - 5:09 pm

    Betsy~ Oh my gosh, I dont even know what to say. I can’t even imagine how you are feeling. You and your family is in our hearts and prayers. Love, Heather Aguirre

  • LindseyJanuary 28, 2008 - 8:27 pm

    Oh Betsy, I am so sorry. We will be praying for you and your family.

    Lindsey, Christopher and Madalyn

  • KayJanuary 28, 2008 - 8:51 pm

    As a sister to 4, I cannot imagine your hurt nor can I imagine being able to wrap my brain around that kind of loss. Just to deep to fathom…my heart hurts for you. You are in my prayers. May God give you a peace that passes all understanding and a comfort like no other.

  • MelanieJanuary 28, 2008 - 11:32 pm

    Hi Betsy~ I found your beautiful blog through the Matilda Jane blog. You don’t know me, but after reading your incredibly sad news today, it felt rude to leave your blog without leaving a comment…I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I will pray that you & your family are filled with comfort & peace, and with joy in the memories of your dear sister. I’m sorry again.

  • Jennie SkeensJanuary 29, 2008 - 2:16 am

    Ya know, I am a devoted blog reader of Betsy’s and I am also her and Penny’s sister-in-law (since 1999). I leave many comments to let Bets know that I’m reading, but nothing replaces the times where we all are together and visiting and laughing. We all read Betsy’s words and we learn a lot from them. So, I guess what I am doing is using Betsy’s blog as an avenue to tell everyone who reads this to go visit your loved ones and tell them you love them. Tell them how they have impacted your life and how wonderful they are. The last time I spoke to Penny was on December 31st, 2007, she called me because she wanted my meatball recipe. And you know what…she still made the time to tell me that she loved me before I hung up the phone that day. She was very very full of love and kindness. Thank you Betsy, for blogging about your sister, although it was difficult. Betsy, Thanks for being you. You are so amazing and I love you. I’ll help you in anyway that you need; but you already know that. Love and Prayers, Jennie

  • LizJanuary 29, 2008 - 3:51 pm

    Betsy, my heart aches at the amount of loss you have dealt with in such a short period of time. It just doesn’t seem fair. I am impressed at how you’re talking/blogging about it to get some of these feelings out. I encourage you to continue to look at Miles for the joy and innocence that life brings. Yes, we will always know difficult days, but we will always know wonderful ones as well. Praying for you! Love, Liz, Nick & Stella

  • Connie Hansen (Erin's mom)January 29, 2008 - 5:26 pm

    Betsy, please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of your dear sister. My thoughts and prayers are with you. May God give you the strength you need during this difficult time. Hold tight to your family, husband, son, and friends who love you so.

  • amanda reynoldsJanuary 30, 2008 - 11:04 am

    Betsy…you are in our thoughts and prayers. I’m so sorry that you have to go through this. May you find all of the comfort and peace you need at this time.

live from our living room

Thank you to everybody who left such kind comments today on my post about Mark. I really appreciated them. Earlier this week John got out his euphonium because he needed a euphonium part for a piece he was orchestrating. So instead of creating it with samples on his computer, he decided to do a recording…


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  • Sherry SmithJanuary 25, 2008 - 11:01 pm

    He is so interested in everything! Those blue eyes kill me.

  • bobbi+January 26, 2008 - 8:54 am

    nd EVERYTIME you post something new about Miles… I love him even more. I think this might be a new favorite post. John with that euphonium is HOT 🙂 You guys are the best parents.

    I hope he ends up loving science so he can be a doctor 🙂 But, even if he ends up loving being an auto mechanic, I’ll adore him just the same.


  • JenJanuary 26, 2008 - 11:33 am

    These are some of my favorite pictures! I love Miles’s expression. Such a cute child! Miss ya guys. Want to come visit DC this spring?!… 🙂

for Mark

Category: personal When John and I decided to get married, we knew we needed someone very special to perform our ceremony. Because of my history with my late husband, we felt our path to each other was unique and called for a very personal and intimate ceremony. We found Mark Klinepeter through a friend and… Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...


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  • bobbi+January 25, 2008 - 11:22 am

    what a perfect tribute. this post had me in tears before i even read the end…

    how lucky you were betsy and john to have had mark in your lives… that first photo says everything about him.

    my thoughts are with you and your family, connie.

    love, bobbi

  • GailJanuary 25, 2008 - 1:19 pm

    Okay, I’m reading this blog entry, thinking how beautiful you look and how sweet both John and Mark look at your wedding and then I get to the end and I’m in tears!

    Oh gosh – definitely will be thinking about you all right now!

    Hugs, Gail

  • RachelJanuary 25, 2008 - 2:29 pm

    Wow, Betsy, what a story. My deepest sympathies to you, John and Mark’s family. It is so sad to lose beautiful people. I don’t know what to say.

  • JessicaJanuary 25, 2008 - 2:51 pm

    Your post brought tears to my eyes as well. You wrote a beautiful tribute for Mark and his family. You have some beautiful memories that will be with you forever! Our sympathies go out to all of you.

  • Sherry SmithJanuary 25, 2008 - 5:06 pm

    Your words are a treasure, wonderful memories. I kept reading and the tears just ran down my cheeks. Mark saved you Betsy, and gave you to John as a renewed spirit.. Andrew and Mark are watching over you and yours. BELIEVE they are having a great time! love you so much MOM

  • ReneeJanuary 25, 2008 - 8:22 pm

    I’m so glad I found your site tonight. Thank you for offering this tribute. I’ve had the honor of having had Mark in my life for nearly 30 years as one of my dearest friends. You’ve captured the essence of him. He lived with such compassion and the ability to love people unconditionally. He died with such grace. He leaves for you, Betsy, and me and all who read here the charge to love each other in the same way. You and I are both so lucky to have known him.

  • KayJanuary 25, 2008 - 9:30 pm

    I can’t imagine losing a husband, especially so young. HUGS~ I’m so glad that you have been blessed again, God is good. Your tribute to Mark was beautiful. It’s so awesome to have someone like that to step in and serve as a spiritual guide. You looked beautiful in all the images and as I’m learning it’s more than skin deep. HUGS!

  • Barb and KenJanuary 26, 2008 - 2:31 pm

    One of the memories we have is when my husband was in the hospital with cancer and wasn’t to make it through the weekend and good friends wanted to get married and Ken was to be there best man, they had asked me if I knew of someone that would marry them and knowing Connie for years and I met Mark through her I thought the perfect person was Mark, so I called him, I arranged for hime to marry them in ICU in my husbands room with the nurses looking on and Connie took video of the wedding. We still talk of that day. Those are Wonderful Memories that will live on forever. To add Mark came many days after that with coffee in hand and had coffee with my husband. I can’t thank him enough for doing that for him, he took the lonelyness out of the day for Ken. For that I will be always grateful that we had the honor of knowing hime and how he touched our lives.

  • Kara Klinepeter-KraickJanuary 26, 2008 - 2:50 pm

    thank you so much for this beautiful tribute to such a beautiful man. he was my father, and it is so wonderful to be able to share other peoples memmories of him. thank you thank you

  • Patricia BeachJanuary 26, 2008 - 4:20 pm

    Marks life was a miracle and he left the world a much better place. He was a wonderful person who touched innumerable numbers of people. I was blessed to have him as an uncle.

  • Dar RichardsonJanuary 26, 2008 - 4:32 pm

    How wonderful to see other lives that Mark and Connie have touched. The three of us met through a mutual trainer at a gym a few years ago when he learned that I, too, work in the area of grief and loss. We even share a dear friend, teacher and mentor, Dr. Alan Wolfelt, at the Center for Loss in Fort Collins, Colorado. I was at the Center for additional training this past week and shared our collective sadness for Mark and Connie’s struggle, but also shared the gratitude for their being in our lives. Even those seminar participants who did not know this wonderful couple offered prayers on their behalf. May God give Connie and Nark’s loved ones a peacefulness in knowing that Mark touched so many lives and his legacy of gentleness and compassion will live on through all who knew him.

  • Anita LaymonJanuary 26, 2008 - 4:44 pm

    Mark was my Pastor and then, good friend, for over 35 years. His wonderful personality and unique ablility to share another’s burden was a treasure. Over the years, Mark was the one to whom I could turn in my pain and know that his wise spiritual counsel would bring peace to my soul. I will miss Mark greatly, but will look forward to seeing him again when I leave this realm.

  • Connie KlinepeterJanuary 26, 2008 - 4:52 pm

    Betsy has been one of my angel’s. Mark was my husband. He was an extraordinary man – full of compassion and love for everyone he came in contact with – always there when you needed him, even unexpectedly. He brought me flowers almost every week for the ten years we were married. He was my best friend, my confidant, my lover and my soul mate. My loss is devastating but part of my loss is the huge void other people will have. Knowing Mark was watching a servant of God in motion. My consolation comes in knowing we will meet again and both “dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”

  • Alan WolfeltJanuary 26, 2008 - 9:19 pm

    What a lovely man we will all miss so very much! While Mark came to my Center for Loss as a student, he was also my teacher. He taught me about unconditional love, authenticity, immediacy and the power of caring for your friends and family. He would always talk about Connie every day he was here and you could see the love that reflected a soulmate connection that very few people ever come to discover. Yes, that is what I will always remember about this man—the deep and abiding love for his wife Connie that he wanted the world to know about. Mark–I miss your gentle spirit and life-force; you cared deeply and sincerely about anyone and everyone that crossed your path. Someone once said the shortest prayer is “Thank you”. So, I say to you my friend–Thank you for touching my life and reminding me to aspire to love well and live well. Your spirit is still with us in the foothills of Colorado and you will never be forgotten. Peace be with you.

  • Carol SmithJanuary 26, 2008 - 10:26 pm

    I never had the privilege of meeting Mark, but I do know his remarkable wife, Connie. I met Connie through work many years ago. Since Mark became ill, we have stayed in contact. I am living with a cancer diagnosis myself, and Connie has been constant support and encouragement since the beginning. I have learned much about Mark over the past months and know that he was very much a Christ follower. I want Connie to know that she is an inspiration to me and I will continue to pray for her strength and peace in the days ahead. I am sure that Mark is smiling down on his beautiful wife in awe of her caregiving and strength she has shown. May God bless you and your family Connie.

  • Bob BurnettJanuary 26, 2008 - 11:48 pm

    I have known Mark from 1991. He helped me find the Lord and change my life. We became friends very quickly. I was at His and Connies wedding. What a loving woman he married. Mark has a gentelness and kindness that was with him anywhere he was. He also helped my family. He would stop in and visit my Mother once in a while as he had time. I have a fond memery of Mark from last spring when Mom and i took he and Connie a quart of fresh strawberrys.. I will miss him untill we meet again.

    May our Lord Bless them both……….

  • LynneJanuary 27, 2008 - 1:02 pm

    What a very touching story, my thoughts are with his family and with you.

  • Kathy EikenberryJanuary 27, 2008 - 1:28 pm

    I have known Mark for a long time. He has been there for our family for many years. He was truly a blessing to be around. He was so compasionate and loving. He also would help you put things in the right persepctive. How important that is in life and life’s journey. I pray for Connie and his family as they are left without him and will need strength to continue forward. Mark married my mom and second dad just a few years ago. My dad passed away and God brought someone special to my mom. To have Mark there was very wonderful. Mark also baptized my parents. Mark made a difference in my life in so many ways. I will miss him very much. Thank you God for allowing me to know him.

  • Wayne HullJanuary 27, 2008 - 4:27 pm

    It has been my privilege to know Mark and to share his special friendship for over 35 years. As young men we were able to share our deepest concerns with openess and honestly. I knew I could trust Mark to have my best interest at heart as he shared his insight with me and encouraged me toward growth and maturity in Christ. We expected the best from each other. now when I think of Mark it brings a smile not only to my face but also to my heart. I am thankful to God that Mark was such a good friend to me and that the loss I feel is lessoned by the memory of his love for Jesus and his love for others

  • Karen (Burnett) FrostJanuary 27, 2008 - 9:20 pm

    Connie, You and Mark were such a blessing to our family. Inviting my mother, myself and my brother, Bob, to use the pontoon boat several times, etc. Thank you for sharing your husband with us in so many ways. Especially your e-mail notes which tore at my heart. As you may or may not remember, our son had cancer with not much hope given by the Drs. He is a 5ys survivor and now has a 6mo. old baby. The Lord’s presence and peace be with you in these days and in the difficult months ahead.

  • Tom BlakeFebruary 5, 2008 - 3:38 pm

    Dear Connie, I was so sorry to hear of the passing of your dear dear hubby. He was such a kind and gentle man who glowed with the spirituality of Jesus. I was sad to not be able to come and pay last respects to him as I was in Honduras, but rest assured that he was a part of my daily prayers. I know how much you must miss him now, but with your strong faith (an example to others) I know He will give you strength. Blessings to you and your family.

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