the session that was a gift

I shot a photo session last weekend that was a beautiful gift to myself and a wonderful and timely blessing in my life.

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You see, I’ve lost my way these past few weeks. I’ve been feeling blue, stressed about money, a messy house that’s too small and a closet filled with nothing cute to wear. (Can I be a bigger spoiled brat? Jeez.) My precious three year old filled with curiosity and wonder was driving me crazy, leaving me to wonder what the heck my problem was. I knew I was being a brat, but I couldn’t get my head on straight. I would stop myself and think, “You lost your husband to cancer Betsy, you know what is truly important in life.” Even though I could think back and remember the time in my life when I was reminded of the beauty in the simple things, I still struggled. Despite all I had, I still felt I had “stuff” missing.

Then one morning I ran into a past client of mine at a coffee shop. Her name is Chelsa and she has been fighting breast cancer for the past six months. Last spring she was nursing her four month old son when she stopped producing milk on one side. Like anyone would assume, she thought it was just a plugged duct. It ended up being breast cancer and from that moment on her whole family, and everyone that loves her, joined in her journey to fight the cancer.

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She’s been keeping a blog throughout her treatments and I’ve been reading alongside her friends and family, hoping and praying for her and her family’s strength and for the treatments to work. So when I ran into her at the coffee shop one morning, the same week she finished up her last chemo treatment, I knew in my heart that I wanted to photograph this beautiful mother and wife. She is such a courageous fighter that this time needed to be captured. I want her kids, when they are older, to see the strength she had to fight the disease so she could be there to see them grow into adults.

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Even though I’m not taking clients right now, I still loving finding time to get into the studio for little projects here and there. (Thanks to John for staying home with the kiddos so I can do that.) I was thrilled Chelsa had time before Christmas to come for a quick shoot for fun. I headed out that snowy morning of their shoot and was greeted by a family radiant and happy to be there. Photographing Chelsa and her family really got my head on straight. Usually families arrive a bit on edge for photos and we have to warm up for a while to get good photos. (You should see ME when I have my family photographed. I’m a MESS.) I literally could have been done after the first few frames, we got the shots that quickly. The whole session was just love and sweetness. This is a family who has the one gift that cancer brings, knowing what is truly important in life, your family.

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Merry Christmas to you and your family Chelsa. I wish you peace and healing in 2011. I know you think that this session was a gift to you, but it truly was a huge gift for me as well. My whole mindset has turned around for the better this week because of the time I spent with your family on Sunday morning. Thank you for helping me get my head on straight.

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I usually can’t help touching up people’s skin in photoshop, but not this family. I just wanted to capture them exactly as they are and I think they are perfection. Have you seen skin more amazing? Chelsa, I cannot believe you just finished chemotherapy this month.

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We got some shots with her wig, which is amazing. Chelsa, you’ll have to tell us where you got it, because where ever you got it, it would be a great resource for other women battle cancer. (Though the hair that is growing back already looks so pretty and soft!)

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Now that Chelsa is done with chemo (yippee!) her next step will be surgery. Please keep her in your thoughts or prayers. If you would like to keep up with her progress, follow her blog.

Edited to add: I had her blog linked incorrectly this morning. It has been added.

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  • AustynDecember 14, 2010 - 11:59 pm

    Breathtaking photos of a beautiful family full of love! Thanks for sharing those and for the reminder during this crazy season what is most important this time of year!

  • GailDecember 15, 2010 - 12:03 am

    BEAUTIFUL session Bets. Just so so beautiful.

  • SamanthaDecember 15, 2010 - 12:04 am

    These shots are beautiful Betsy. I love the DeMarchis family and am keeping them in my prayers. I think this post is the perfect reminder about what truly matters in life. Thank you 🙂

  • Heidi GarciaDecember 15, 2010 - 12:09 am

    Just beautiful!…as always! So, glad that you are finding balance…it is an act for us business mom’s! Just found out that my client who has been remission for 3 years is free for a whole year for anymore tests. Beautiful beautiful!

  • Dustin FrancisDecember 15, 2010 - 12:19 am

    What a fun session and a great looking family 🙂

  • Mel CarpenterDecember 15, 2010 - 7:51 am

    Such a great reminder…blessings to that sweet family. Beautiful work, Betsy!

  • jess@studio3zDecember 15, 2010 - 8:04 am

    Such a lovely session. You can just feel warmth pouring from this sweet family! Beautiful capture Bets.

  • ErinDecember 15, 2010 - 8:10 am

    Beautiful Bets! Lots of thoughts and prayers to Chelsa and family. <3

  • annie pDecember 15, 2010 - 8:24 am

    What a wonderful gift and something I know the family will cherish it will serve as a reminder of her strength and their closeness as a family. You’ve done beautifully.

  • LaceyDecember 15, 2010 - 8:25 am

    What a wonderful session!! My favorite is #5–a bw family photo. Love the happiness & love captured in that shot–especially in big brother’s smiling eyes (that look a lot like his Momma’s!)! God bless this gorgeous family of 4!

  • CassieDecember 15, 2010 - 8:59 am

    In the second to last b&w shot, Chelsea and her eldest look SO much alike!

    What a beautiful, beautiful session. They’re glowing.

  • SherryDecember 15, 2010 - 9:07 am

    Oh WOW!Betsy, my very talented daughter. You keep amazing me with your ability to bring beauty, love and joy to my life. You are so gifted. Not only in your photography, but the way of expressing yourself on the written page. Healing Prayers to Chelsa, a remarkable lady.

  • Tira JDecember 15, 2010 - 12:11 pm

    Such a beautiful gift you have given this family. Praying for healing.

  • robinDecember 15, 2010 - 1:01 pm

    Chelsea is BEAUTIFUL. Love these images. Seeing them makes me wish so much that we’d had a similar session with my mom at some point. These are awesome!

  • RhondaDecember 15, 2010 - 1:22 pm

    What a beautiful shoot! Do you have the link to her blog? I tried the way posted but it goes to when you posted about them the first time and not her actual blog.

  • BetsyDecember 15, 2010 - 2:24 pm

    Sorry that I had her blog linked incorrectly. It should be fixed now.

    Her blog is: http://demarchis.typepad.com/blog/

  • Patricia EdwardsDecember 15, 2010 - 8:03 pm

    WOW….thank you “all” for the gift you have now given me, a reminder of what really matters!! Smootches….thanks!

  • kaseyDecember 15, 2010 - 8:44 pm

    Gorgeous! Absolutely gorgeous! What a sweet family!!

  • ChelsaDecember 15, 2010 - 11:18 pm

    Thank you, Betsy. you have been blessed with such an amazing gift of capturing the joy. We already cherish these photos.

  • ChelsaDecember 15, 2010 - 11:18 pm

    Thank you, Betsy. you have been blessed with such an amazing gift of capturing the joy. We already cherish these photos.

  • Diane {Hershey, PA Photography}December 16, 2010 - 12:32 pm

    WOW. WOW. WOW! Thank you for taking the time to blog this (I know you’ve said things are beyond chaotic right now). Its good to take a minute and reflect. Chelsea, it looks like you and your family have amazing spirits. Saying a prayer for all of you for continued healing!

  • AprilDecember 16, 2010 - 7:47 pm

    Just breathtaking…these photos are pure beauty. Her children will absolutely cherish these. You are so talented and blessed Betsy…glad you feel you have your head on straight. ;o) Us mommies have those weeks.

  • AprilDecember 16, 2010 - 7:49 pm

    Just breathtaking…these photos are pure beauty. Her children will absolutely cherish these. You are so talented and bless…glad you feel you have your head on straight…us mommies have those kind of weeks! ;o)

  • caitlinDecember 17, 2010 - 3:31 pm

    what beautiful children! incredible family – images are amazing

  • amyDecember 17, 2010 - 9:32 pm

    beautiful!!!!!! gorgeous family! praying for complete healing for chelsea!!

  • MelDecember 17, 2010 - 10:23 pm

    Cancer sucks. Bad. Thank u to chelsa for sharing your strength. The pics are wonderful Betsy. Kick cancers ass girlfriend. U can do it. Prayers with you.

  • Laura Morita-YeunDecember 18, 2010 - 12:26 am

    All I see in these pictures is love and joy. I love that. Chelsa, know that you and yours are being lifted up in prayer and thoughts of wondrous health.

  • GranDecember 19, 2010 - 5:00 pm

    Betsy, these are the most wonderful and beautiful photos of this special family. Chelsea I will come back to the photos again if I need a reminder of how special each day is. I have thought of you often since learning of your journey through your sister in law, Denise. Merry Merry Christmas. Those boys are totally “squeezeable”. A Gran in NC

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